Thank Jesus
Whitney & Romi’s

Genuine L Term

Strap-On Intercourse
smashed open those patriarchaly-painted lesbian sex-talk wall space a couple weeks back, yeah? Like since 500+ persons have seen that world, every person’s for a passing fancy web page? That’s how lesbians do sex, correct? Complete and done? Concerns answered, clam-power obtained, etc?

Well, no! Never.

Would I have any bisexuals or former bisexuals/heteros inside your home? HAY! Thus, back when we ran in entirely het sectors and were doing heterosexual online dating activities, it seemed like all girlfriends ever desired to discuss ended up being sex gender gender. How long he lasted, what size he had been, the way you achieved it & how frequently, etc etc etc. Yes,
similar to when you look at the tv show
!

But queer ladies do not always get started into that type of discourse. Although our very own straight male pals love acquiring regaled with genuine Lesbian Sex reports, all of our direct feminine pals are not always yes where to begin and all of our queer lady friends — well — not everybody Provides queer buddies! And also folks which do frequently report that for all newly-out (or young) queers, sex-talk does not are available naturally. So when it can, there’s a lot of concerns lesbians are still afraid to ask or topics that seem off-limits — actually

within

interactions. And then in which can you go.

We have been aware of this THING from you. Within email messages and silence and tips and questions and exactly how NSFW Sundays get CRAZY stats, but minimal reviews. Additionally, when you break the dialogue open with some drinks, it seems like every lesbian is perishing to half-whisper some long-lingering sexual concern or confess a buried desire.

In whichis the open, sincere, free-flowing homosexual sexual discussion? What zaps certain sexual talks dried out as a fish in vacuum pressure?

Feasible reasons for this THING we SENSE:

– we’ve got/want having/have had gender w/each different, so it’s eternally uncomfortable to talk about intercourse.

– you are all too politically proper to truly TALK.

– the lez-friends tend to be friends/exes of one’s girlfriends.

– Question-related vexation in accordance with inexperience/extreme difference of expertise within peer teams.

– Trash-talking various other women’s intimate conduct merely seems fucking TACKY, therefore we typically keep our concerns/problems to ourselves ’cause it seems this way.

– Years of shame instilled of the patriarchy/heteronormative society/lack of colleagues for effective conversation/the lchan porno panel keeps acquiring power down.

– insufficient lesbo-sex media ’cause even writing posts similar to this is a large barrier w/r/t our very own power to entice advertisers.

– we do not consider we know that which we’re referring to.

The ridiculousness of

The Real L Word

‘s self-congratulatory sex-talk is, without a doubt, just how exhausted and simple their unique subject areas of talk tend to be and just how they kinda overlook the simple fact that a bajillion sex-positive lesbians have already been referring to and putting lesbian sex around permanently!

1. Some Questions.

We started a giant anonymous google doc for everyone at Autostraddle observe what people have not been speaking about if they discuss lesbian gender and concerns that emerged provided treasures such as:

Can you feel just like do you know what you are carrying out when you’ve got intercourse? Scissoring — is-it something? Will you be a woman which squirts or are you presently with one? How damp do you realy get? Ever maybe not started intercourse as you realized it might just take several hours and you’d quite end up being asleep?

2. Some Answers from our brainstorm, presented here totally void of context/question being answered to suit your amusement:

– Can you imagine you’re getting sly and set the hands down the woman pants while she’s preparing meal or something like that, THAT IS AT THE TOP THEN??

– men and women want to make you are feeling unusual about gender, duration. Oh, you haven’t had intercourse? Oh, you have only slept with one individual? Oh wow, you slept with exactly how many people?!

– I masturbate almost every single day unless I’m to my duration following i just like to consume candy and perish.

-My companion and that I often speak about just how ridiculously wet we have. We get really, actually moist occasionally. Like if my personal vag. had slightly white t-shirt you would be able to see it really is nipples…err just what? Yeah. that wet.

– if someone else appeared alarmed by me personally squirting, I would most likely weep.

– 69 is a thing, but i have never ever become off with it. I frankly do not like the place and where all of our noses have to be. There. I stated it.

– Scissoring can be type of silly, but i believe laughing during sex is good/healthy when it puts a stop to becoming absurd, often it’s rather hot. It’s not anything i would really like request during sex, but do not knock it til ya test it. Its is like a large damp pussy hug. In a good way.

3. our very own concern for your family nowadays:

WHAT DO YOU THINK LOVE PEOPLE NEVER SPEAK ABOUT WHEN THEY DISCUSS LESBIAN SEX? What questions can you want you can ask, but can’t?

Because we’ve chosen your concept of “oversharing” is actually a tool from the patriarchy so we will feel uncomfortable and will not confide all of our stories in a single another and therefore don’t grow/rebel/be, you ought to answer this.

Do you believe we’re not going to supply any links today? Obviously we are.

Because there are completely many genuine obvious individuals talking about lesbian sex all ovah the place.

+ Kids nowadays will deliver their particular sex questions to
Get Ask Alice
and
Scarleteen.

+ The sex-positive hosts of Sisters Talk Radio you should not shy from gorgeous subjects, such as this movie on
Why Lesbian Sex Doesn’t Always Have become Dull Or Boring
.

+ Greta Christina constantly provides extensive things to say like their simply take recently on
Porn, Social Criticism, as well as the Marginalization of Kink
.

+ desire some
gender advice from Lesbian Oil Wrestlers
(we believe these ladies also moonlight as neighborhood party marketers also accessories of lifestyle)?

+ Questions Regarding Non-Monogamy?
Absolutely an infographic for this.

+ In
Sex positivity along with other depends on Tumblr,
the pansexual madame thursday wonders exactly how

“sex-positive” the web actually is whenever it seems to “equate gender aided by the unclothed bodies of thin, traditionally attractive, golden-haired white women in male-gaze centric pornography.”

+ Susie Bright trained us everything we have to find out about fisting in
Susie Sexpert’s Lesbian Sex Industry
[check out her blog post on
The Velvet Fist
] and then she dishes out advice and ideas as well as other sexual funtime inside her
During sex With Susie Vibrant podcasts.

+

LESBOSEXY TUMBLR ALARM:

spirit sista lesbo
likes to “post images of lesbians, mostly nude.” she also posts thoughts, and thoughts about emotions. and often kittens.

We are going to end in what the conventional internet can explore whenever they discuss gender: